by Luminita Saviuc: “There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own SELF.” ~ Aldous Huxley
What I will share with you today are some of the things that have helped me return to a place of love and inner peace, allowing me to live my life in a beautiful, harmonious and authentic way.
Hope they will help you as much they helped me.
1. Give your self permission to be selfish
In a world that is constantly trying to make you something you are not, staying true to your Self requires a great deal of strength and courage. Rediscovering your own SELF, your own beauty and your own power requires you to be selfish and to put your needs before the needs of others.
“He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.” ~ Raymond Hull
2. Let go of the need for approval
Ever since you were a little boy/ girl you were taught to believe that being good and acting in a specific way will make people like you. You started acting in all kind of ways not because you wanted and it felt right deep down inside but because you knew THEY will like it.
You forgot about yourself, about your own needs and desires and you started focusing more on pleasing others instead of pleasing your own self, not knowing that self worth comes from yourself not from others and that is exactly why is called self worth and not others worth.
“All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was… It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but my SELF.” ~ Ralph Ellison
3. Transcend the ego
The moment you start identifying yourself with your possessions, your age, your looks, religion, country, etc., you begin to see yourself as being better/worse, valuable/ less valuable than others, negating your real essence, your real value and your real SELF… and you strengthen the EGO – the false self.
“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” ~ Carl Jung
4. Peel off the layers of “mud”
Since childhood you have been covered with layers and layers of mud and this mud represents all the limitations, all the bad programing and all the past conditioning that came from many of the people you interacted with.
You chose to take their beliefs, their reality and make it your own. It all became part of you and you never stopped to ask yourself whether all of those beliefs were true or not, whether any of those beliefs were really yours… You adopted them without questioning their authenticity.
“Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.” ~ Buddha
5. Acknowledge your Self
Compared with the EGO, which is constantly looking to be better than everybody else, always comparing and always competing, the SELF is always loving, always peaceful and always forgiving.
Whenever you are thinking, feeling, saying or doing something that is not coming from a loving place, know that you are activating from the ego and not the self.
Constantly look for ways to share what you know, who you are and what you have with others and by doing so you will manage to strengthen and acknowledge the self more and more.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ~ Aristotle
6. Take time to be quiet
Taking time to be alone with your own Self is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.
Thinking you don’t have 5 – 10 minutes per day to spend in silence is like saying that you would rather walk from U.S. to China than take a plane, because that is exactly what quiet time does for you. Solitude, contemplation, meditation helps speed up things, helping you attract more of the things you love and need at a faster rate, because you see, just like Aristotle said it, “Contemplation is the highest form of activity.”
7. Keep a journal
There is so much power in journaling because it helps you become aware of your own thoughts and emotions, of what and who you THINK you are, helping you see things from a totally different perspective.
You will get to a point where you will no longer say, I Am angry, but rather, there is anger in me and by doing so you manage to tap into your inner peace and happiness.
“Journal writing is a voyage to the interior.” ~ Christina Baldwin
8. Become the observer of your own life
When you start doing all of these things and many others, you get to a point where you can detach from your own body and you can become the observer of your own life.
You will be able to see things from a different perspective and when all kind of challenges will come your way, you will pause and instead of reacting, you will respond. You will no longer be a victim of your own thoughts and emotions because you will no longer see yourself as being one with them.
“You will recognize your own path when you come upon it, because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need.” ~ Jerry Gillies
9. Purify your thoughts – thoughts have power, choose the good ones
Thoughts have the power to manifest themselves into action and it’s up to you to always choose the best of thoughts and constantly work on creating a life that you enjoy living.
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” ~ Unknown
10. Let go of all thoughts of separation
Often times we act as if we are here on this Planet all alone against the whole world, not understanding that we are in the world and the world in us, not understanding that we are all ONE with it.
We are all in this together and it’s our responsibility to help one another grow and evolve, and “If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.” Dalai Lama
11. Remove all your masks
The world is full of people who wear all kind of masks and who are constantly trying to get approval from outside themselves, ignoring their own thoughts, their own feelings and their own needs. You have no idea how much the world needs you to be you and how much the world will admire you the moment you choose to step into your Super Self and embrace who you really are, completely!
“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a MASK.” ~ Jim Morrison
Remove all your mask because the world needs people like you, people who are true to themselves, unique and original.
“God has given you one face, and you make yourself another.”~ William Shakespeare
12. No sense of separation – connect with all that is
When you allow your Self to just be, your whole world will be transformed.
You will start to feel a great deal of inner peace, inner joy and tranquility.
You will drop all your defenses and you will no longer spend time judging and labeling people because you will now be too busy loving them
You will finally understand that you are part of them and they are part of you. There is no separation, only the one that was created by our mind, by our ego.
