“The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.” ~Wilhelm Reich
Orgasms have been cherished, misunderstood, feared and indulged throughout the ages.
Let’s first understand the history of orgasms, because the word itself carries with it a promise of fulfillment.
The History of Orgasm
The word orgasm originates from two Greek words: Orgasmos, meaning to grow ripe, swell and be lustful, and Orgemeaning impulse.
It also has origins in the Sanskrit word urj – meaning power, nourishment and strength.
Sex and pleasure were once free and equal. Orgasms, with its physical pleasure and consciousness – altering effects, were worshiped in many developing cultures.
As civilizations became more sophisticated about reproduction and, sadly, property rights, orgasms and who gives, receives and enjoys them, became increasingly regulated.
In the West particularly, the female orgasm has been a mystery to the mostly patriarchal power structure.
Furthermore, it was seen as a threat to the advancement of social development.
In the modern age, science has taken a front seat in the understanding and exploration of this most basic of human experience, with mixed results.
While women have made progress toward orgasmic equality, there is still a long way to go.
Today, there is so much research and new information that our understanding of orgasmic possibilities have expanded. We now know that much more is possible.
In reality, both men and women are capable of experiencing many different kinds of orgasms, opening up a sensational range of possibilities for experiencing pleasure.
Why We Crave Orgasms?
We transcend into the ecstatic experience that shakes us to the roots of our being.
Orgasms take us out of ourselves and we become natural.
Our Body armor melts away and everything is lost – the facades, our ego, society, culture; we become part of nature again.
There is no past, no future, only the present moment.
In this short blissful moment of silence, we go into a space that connects us to something greater than who we are.
We connect with the flow of energy, our heart, and soul.
In the bliss of orgasm we get naked in every possible way, and reveal the burning treasures within.
The deeper we melt the deeper we experience creation, manifestation, healing, releasing, regeneration, understanding, connecting, and consciousness. We melt into infinite possibilities.
The ecstatic flow takes us to new places we know but don’t recognize because it connects us to our heart and soul. We may not recognize it because we are, or have become strangers to it.
How do we know when it happens?
Every cell in our body knows.
Our bodies fill with sexual energy, taking us beyond the limits of what we know.
In that moment, a flood of great joy and pleasure wipes out the worries of our regular framed life.
Great spiritual teachers throughout the ages have stated that orgasm is the closest some people come to a spiritual awakening because of the momentary loss of self.
Why is this true?
Because with spiritual sex, you move beyond orgasm into a connection with yourself, your partner, and the divine — recognizing them all as one.
Don’t seek, don’t search, don’t ask, don’t knock, don’t demand – relax. If you relax, it comes. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, you start vibrating with it. ~Osho
Christina is the co-founder of ConfidentLover.com. For more than 10 years, she’s been exploring sexual health, sexual pleasure and the art of lovemaking. She’s a passionate traveler on a journey exploring the teachings of Eastern and Western sexual practices.
Currently, she’s helping men understand and appreciate the fascinating & mysterious female sexual anatomy. Techniques are important, but they’re nothing without a deeper understanding of women and what turns them on.