by Meg Blackburn Losey, Ph.D. The Art of Living Out Loud: How to Leave Behind Your Baggage and Pain to Become a Happy, Whole, Perfect Human Being with Unlimited PotentialMaster healer and metaphysical teacher Meg Losey experienced her own life crisis in which she lost everything–her house, her business, and her relationship and was forced to learn how to accept this devastating situation.

In The Art of Living Out Loud, Losey describes how she learned to live an authentic life, from this traumatic experience. She guides readers through the process of coming clean with ourselves, accepting who we are, discovering our purpose and developing the courage to embody it.

Losey shows how to find one’s power from the inside out, dropping pretenses and perceptions of control, shedding fears, and embracing who we are. We can literally create a perfect life right here on earth. “I learned that creating the kind of experience that I wanted in life was as easy as believing it, and that worrying was nothing more than fear of ‘what ifs’ that didn’t even exist.”

EXCERPT

So here is the question: Who are you and what do you want? I mean really. Most of us go about our lives with an idealistic vision of what our lives should look like, what our experiences should be, and yet most of us don’t have a clue why our lives aren’t turning out the way we expected or planned.

If we ask ourselves who we really are and what it is we truly want, most of us can’t answer that question honestly or directly. This is because we are trying to fit into other people’s molds: their expectations and ideals. Plus, we are conditioned from birth to realize that we are not perfect—that we must achieve a singular purpose in our lives and we have to do it all by a certain set of rules. So we flounder day after day with our dreams just outside our grasp, our insecurities and fears leading the way to certain and ultimate disaster. Believe me. I found out the hard way what it means to struggle through life trying to please everyone but myself.

Over ten years ago I found myself in what a lot of people might call a dark night of the soul. I awoke on my friend’s couch sobbing. To this day I don’t know what I was crying about. Had I dreamed? Who knows? It could have been any number of things that morning. Everything I had perceived to be my life had fallen apart in a short two weeks. Life, Love, Work—all gone in a flash. I had opted for my friend’s couch because home had become impossible. I was working out of my car becausemy partners had literally pushed me out of the very business I had conceived, planned, and created. There was more, but suffice it to say that there was nothing left of life as I had known it.

As I lay curled up in a puddle of my tears, I knew something was terribly wrong. I knew that if I was to survive all the challenges now looming before me, I really needed to understand where I had gone wrong. As I took an honest look at my life and the relationships I had developed with others, there came a moment when I realized my life had been one lie after another. Lies I had accepted from others because I wanted something from them, lies I had told myself.

I realized that all of my successes had been one great big illusion, that they were successes based on the values of others—not mine.

I also realized I had no idea who I was or what I really wanted. So I began to consider each situation from the perspective of me. Not what anyone else said or did; my part of the play. My game. What was my part in all of this? What was I fighting so hard to save or to be? Given that I think of myself as a loving and gentle person, why was there so much conflict around me when my heart in truth wanted to experience life to its fullest potential? Conflict was the last thing I wanted. All I ever wanted was to be loved and accepted, but somehow it felt as though I was surrounded by sharks and I was the only one on the menu! Why was it so hard? What was my part in this disaster I called my life?

As I considered all of these things and more, I began to realize that the life I had created was based upon what I thought everyone else wanted me to be. I was trying to be the star of someone else’s play. What did I want? I had no idea. Who was I, really? Who knew? I was a lie to myself.

One thing I realized beyond a shadow of a doubt that fateful morning was that enough was enough. I got it. I really got it. I was done. No more lies, no more self-deception, no more trying to be what everyone else expected. I looked up and said to no one in particular, “Whoever I am, whatever this is, I accept!”

They say you get what you ask for, but I had no idea how true that could be. That morning was the beginning of a life that is pure magic. As humble as I was, as low as I had fallen, the only way to go was up. No more being a victim of my own doing.

The first thing that happened was that the difficulties began to melt away. I lost weight. My body began to reflect who I really was. The people with whom I had been involved slunk into my past and others began to show up. Honest people. People who were open to the possibilities of greater reality.Positive people who lived from their hearts and interacted with sincerity and without self-agenda. They didn’t want anything in particular from me, for them. They just wanted me as I am.

Each day, I practiced telling the truth to myself and others. Honestly, at first that was one of the scariest things I had ever done. I felt raw and exposed, but my conviction to be nothing less than the true me won time after time, day after day, and ultimately telling the truth became easier.

As I learned to be authentic, my intuitive gifts unfolded as precious realizations that there was much, much more to being alive than I had ever imagined. I began to realize the power of the moment and, even more important, of myself. I realized that life isn’t so hard once you get the hang of it, but we have to live it from a set of very simple instructions. I learned that creating the kind of experience I wanted in life was as easy as believing it, and that worrying was nothing more than fear of “what-ifs,” which didn’t even exist.

I began to unfold, a beautiful human being who had no stories to cover up, no lies to tell—just an authentic being on a mission to myself. As each day became easier, my days also became more magical, and I realized I was on to something.

I was not just at ease, I was free. I was present with myself, truly in the now, for the first time in my life, and I actually liked me. My intuitive gifts became vast. It seemed that there was no end to the realities I could create from my new life perspective. All I had to do was think something and it became instant reality. If there was something I wanted to know or understand, someone I had never met before showed up in my living room with the answers. It seemed that every single time I had information that was far beyond my frame of reference, somehow the person who could understand it best and even help me put the information to use would hear about me and either show up at my door or make an appointment for a session with me. Talk about synchronicities; I became the queen of them! I learned to laugh at myself, learned to express my inner passions, emotions, even my fears. The little kid in me was no longer afraid to come out and play. People began to notice great changes in me and wanted to know what I was doing. I tried to tell them but the concept of self-honesty was so new to me that I didn’t really have words. Sometimes there just aren’t any.

As my new life unfolded, one day a man came to my home and asked me to speak at a weekend conference. Since our community was fairly small, word got around quickly . . . about everything, and particularly about me. I had become the local mystery and excitement. Before that moment I hadn’t even considered such an idea. I was at once elated and terrified. Who would believe me? Why would anyone want to hear my experiences? And yet something deep inside of me screamed at me to share what I had learned, so I agreed. The weekend of the expo I showed up and shuffled my feet while I told my story. I really thought everyone would leave. I was far from right. That lecture was the beginning of an entirely new and different life path for me. Not only did no one walk out on me that day, when my allotted time was over, no one moved. They were riveted in their seats, wanting more. Wow. Wow.

That weekend I met numerous people, and each became an important facet of my life. I grew to love every one of them dearly. It was as if a family of souls had traveled forever and come to rest in one place in one moment in time. Some became business associates over time, and some became great friends. I even met my husband there.

Since that fateful weekend, I have continued to follow each synchronicity that comes my way without a thought or concern. I have learned a new definition of Faith. I have learned the true meaning of letting go. And I have learned to love myself.

For over fifteen years now I have worked with individuals and groups in the capacity of healer, counselor, teacher, and spiritual advisor. I have traveled around the world as a spirit guide, lecturer, keynote speaker, and instructor, teaching countless people how to create the kind of lives they want.

Throughout this time, no matter where I was or who was in the audience, the same issues came up over and over again. Nearly everyone had the same burning questions, all of them ones that I had faced in my own quest for a greater life.

As I listened to these commonly related, repetitive issues I read between the lines. As I did, I felt a great need in people for more than our world seems to offer. Something was missing. And yet, while so many seek answers outside themselves, I realized that everything we need is right here inside of us. To me, who we are or what we are capable of has nothing to do with any particular belief system. The real secret is that there is no secret. We already have everything we need to be, have, or experience whatever we want. There is magic inside each and every one of us. We can create anything we want anywhere, any time; we need only the right set of tools and the realization that we are subject to no one else’s ideas, or ideals, but our own.

I want to share these tools with you. You have gifts and abilities that you haven’t even considered. Why not discover who you really are and what you really want and begin to create your life intentionally, creating from moment to moment the very kind of life that you want?

It is time to stop stumbling through life; I call this living by accident. We have the power. The bottom line is that life is a choice. My question to you, the reader, is: Who is doing your choosing?

The Art of Living Out Loud is about finding your power from the inside out. It is about taking that power into the creative process of your very life to find yourself fulfilled and overflowing with abundance. This book is about how, when we drop our pretenses and our perceptions of control, shed our fears, and embrace who we are, our creative gifts not only blossom,we can create a perfect life right here on earth.

Life is a series of choices, moment to moment. In each of those moments are signposts, clues, and even synchronicities that bring us closer to our intended goals. If we are living in fear, if we are bound by uncertainties, if we are worried about what has already happened or what is next, we are missing the boat. The Art of Living Out Loud will literally teach you how to shed those fears, uncertainties, and perceptions of being less than and bring you clearly onto a path of universal co-creation.

This is a new Beginning for you. It is an opportunity for you to change your consciousness from never ending questions to a totality of answers.

The Art of Living Out Loud will bring you not only self-empowerment, but empowerment in everyday life. This is not just a book of self-help advice. The Art of Living Out Loud is a book with an attitude. In it, you will find no-nonsense truth that may hit you square between the eyes or in the heart. So be it. We can indefinitely or forever skirt around our issues or we can quit deluding ourselves and get to it. The Art of Living Out Loud is a journey through self, an embracing of the infinite possibilities that are available to us as human beings and infinite souls. This is not a book of advice, but a true suite of instructions to bring about the possibilities inside each of us. It is a set of tools that, if utilized, brings about true personal freedom. There are also exercises to help you get to that place inside you that is screaming to come alive. Life is a gift. Why not get past the wrappings and into the heart of it? Let’s learn the art of living out loud!