by Yogi Bhajan: If you want to grow, if you want to glow, if you want grace; you will only get it if you follow the Ten Manners of Life.
1. Listen.
2. Feel the other person.
3. Discuss and dialogue.
4. Come to a mutual understanding.
5. Plan the strategy.
6. Keep communication.
7. Evaluate.
8. Achieve.
9. Exchange greetings.
10. Be thankful.
These are the law that every human being should know. These are ten good manners that will help you win in life.
One thing will always make you lose, and that is reaction. There are certain other things in addition: rudeness, subjective insecurity, objective paranoia, and creative fear. Aren’t they wonderful? When you have them in your behavior you destroy yourself. You don’t need any enemies.
The biggest drum of the world is the eardrum. It vibrates at the center optical nerve of the third eye. The neurons of the brain immediately translate the signals we hear. Whatever you hear – you can hear thirty signals of gossip or thirty good things, wonderful things – they are all stored in the central nucleus of the brain. Neurons respond to three things immediately: what you hear, what you smell, and what you see. So what is the first principle?
Listen!
When you will be half insane you will not listen. When you will be ¾ insane you will take ¾ power not to listen. When you will be totally insane, you will totally not listen. Sanity and “listening” have 100% proportion. You Westerners don’t want to listen because you think if you listen then you have to act. You are prompted by guilt. You feel guilty about everything, and your guilt is all that you have. So you feel guilty; therefore you don’t want to listen. Instead listen and work it out. By listening, you understand 100%. By listening, you comfort another person. By listening, you develop a mutual understanding with the other person.
And for God’s sake, listen to me: Listen and you will develop intuition. That’s the easiest way to develop intuition. Totally zero in on the psyche of the other person when you speak, otherwise don’t waste your time. Barking is not speaking. Yelling and screaming is not speaking. Crying and becoming emotional is not speaking. “Speaking” is penetrating the psyche of the other person. Any word uttered which has no prana in it brings offense in defense and reaction.
The Siri Guru Granth is the Guru of words. It has no body. It has rhythm, it has harmony, it has music, it has the ‘thaal’. It has the detail. What is the ‘raag’? Raag is the technology to create harmonious sound to communicate.
Gurbani is nothing but a permutation and combination between the upper palate and the tongue to rotate on the eighty-four meridian points, to stimulation the hypothalamus so that the moon cavity in the brain can rotate, and the pineal and the pituitary form a listening partnership. What does that partnership do? Whatever you listen to from the unknown world, from the known world, from the cell world, from the outer world, and from the inner world, shall be automatically balanced. You’ll become siddh.*
When you chant along with sounds you do not know, you coordination your ear and tongue to act at the same time. Understand? Concentrate. That is called ‘dhiaan.’ That is called meditation – when hearing the sound and using the tongue to speak become one.
Someone says to you, “I want to tell you something. It is serious. Promise me you won’t tell anyone else.”
“If you are not going to tell anyone else, why are you telling me?”
That is called interlock. Communication is the law of interlock. Dialogue is to interlock the psyche. That is what the power of the word does. Words are the basic foundation of the psyche. Without words there is no psyche, no understanding, and no knowledge. Without words there is no ‘gian,’ no ultimate knowledge. Without words everything becomes nothing. That is why God spoke.
It is not what you say, it is from what chakra you say it. And it is not what you say, it is which chakra you say it to. ‘Dia’ means ‘what’ and ‘to’ which chakra you are speaking. That is dialogue.
Trying to create a commitment is called communication. Kabadshe Mantra will give you the power of communication. Your words shall have mastery, and your impact shall be vital. All the knowledge of the three worlds, all totality to come and all that is, will come to the person who recites this mantra. It enables you to conquer the wisdom of the past, present, and future.
You can overtake an enemy by fifty percent by just reciting this mantra in your own mind. It creates an armor around you which can take away half the psychic power of your enemy by interlocking and turning their psyche around. All you have to do is five percent and you win. This mantra works on the spot. If you can speak and mentally chant this mantra, there is absolutely no defense against it.
Sit in Easy Pose, with your hands in Mercury Mudra (the tip of little finger presses the tip of the thumb.) Hands rest on the knees, palms face up. Eyes are focused at the tip of the nose. Chant aloud:
Saa Re Saa Saa, Saa Re Saa Saa, Saa Re Saa Saa, Saa Rang
Har Re Har Har, Har Re Har Har, Har Re Har Har, Har Rang
“Saa” is God, “Har” is the earth. We are combining the ether and the earth.
*one who has perfected powers
