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Why Can Love Be So Painful? 6 Ways To Heal & Move On

by Pragrito Dove: Love is painful  because it creates the way for joy, for bliss, for compassion.  Love is painful because it transforms you.  Love is growth…


Love itself does not hurt. It is growth that hurts, the ego that stings.

Each transformation is painful because the old situation is being left behind for the new.  For example, when a relationship ends you feel hurt, your hopes and dreams have crashed, and you feel lost and lonely, wondering what comes next. Fear arises because the unknown is in front of you, and the mind usually assumes the negative, saying things like: ”I’ll never meet anyone else”, “I’m too old/ overweight/ unattractive,” “I don’t have time for a new relationship.”  The temptation is to shut down, open a bag of potato chips, pour a glass of wine, turn on the TV, and give up on love.

Here are six keys to help you face this challenge and keep your heart open, so that you can have the abundance of love that you want and deserve.

1.Understand The Real Problem
The real problem is the mind. Fear lives in the mind and the mind wants you to hang on to a situation that is known and comfortable for you. The ego-mind resists change because it is afraid of losing control and feels insecure about the unpredictability of the unknown. Love means the death of the ego because love cannot be controlled, it can only be received, accepted.  Love is fragile. One day it is there, the next day it may be gone, like the wind. You cannot grasp the wind in your fist. You can only enjoy and appreciate it while it is there. With this awareness, BE PRESENT with love, and it will grow and expand.

2.Practice Gratitude
A gratitude practice is of tremendous help with all matters of the heart. For example,when your relationship ends,  be grateful for the good times you shared, for what this person gave you of their energy, time, and heart. Thank them for being in your life, and wish them well as they move on to what’s next for them. When you hold this person with love in your heart, even though they may be the one breaking up with you, (and even if they’ve already met someone else!), you are healing yourself. It’s love that heals your broken heart.  By refusing to shut your heart down, and by facing the hurt and fear, you are able to RECEIVE all the love you need to heal and move on.

  1. Surround Yourself With Loving Friends and Family
    At a difficult time when you are, for example,  going through a divorce, or a difficult breakup, your youngest child has left for college, or you feel betrayed by a friend, it’s important to keep your heart  open to RECEIVING LOVE AND  SUPPORT from friends and family.Life doesn’t always seem fair, but LOVE is always there, available for you.

    You just have to be open to receiving it. Be careful not to expect support from people who have nothing to give or who do not wish you well. Avoid them, and focus on the people you know DO love you. Sometimes a professional counselor can be just the right fit if family and friends are too overwhelmed with their own lives.
  2. Take Responsibility For How You Interpret Your Situation
    Bring loving awareness to yourself and be careful not to judge yourself or compare yourself with others. You have a CHOICE  between experiencing resentment, pain, and suffering, OR love, peace, and joy. It all depends on your interpretation of the situation: do you perceive yourself as a victim? Or, can you accept the situation(which doesn’t mean you have to like it!) for what it is, and receive the blessing (which is often revealed later on).

What if you created this very situation so that you could continue to grow and expand in love?

By taking  the responsibility on your own shoulders,  you are in integrity with yourself which portends well for you. AND you discover a rich well of creativity, strength, and wisdom  inside you that you didn’t know you had!

  1. Watch The Mind
    For the mind, love is a dangerous path. Mind will advise you to avoid love but this is even more dangerous, because love is the central core of our lives. A life without love is a life that is withered and dried up.

It is because of the pain of love that millions live a loveless life, like a rotten seed that has never opened to flower to it’s fullest potential.If you don’t go into love, as many people have decided, then you are stuck with your bags of potato chips! Then your life is a stagnant pool. You need to keep the energy flowing, like a river which keeps on flowing to the ocean.

  1. Always Choose Love
    Always choose love because even though there is pain, to suffer in love is not to suffer in vain; you are taken to higher levels of consciousness. There is a positive, creative outcome for you. If you choose the mind you will also suffer but it will be useless suffering with an unproductive outcome. Life will be dull and you become neurotic from lack of love. To be afraid of love, to be afraid of the growing pains of love, is to remain enclosed in a dark shell.

The transformation you go through is from control of the mind to vulnerability of the heart. And the agony can be deep. But you cannot have ecstasy without going through agony. If the gold wants to be purified, it has to pass through fire.

Love is fire. 

Find your courage and love, fully and completely. Trust and live in your heart. Love takes you from the head to the heart and nurtures, comforts and heals you even as you pass through the fire.

With love, the ego drops and the soul arises. Love is food for the soul.

You can ask yourself:”Is this pain for my growth?”  “Is my heart breaking open to give and receive even more love?” Every time your heart breaks open, yes it’s painful, but it means your heart is expanding and deepening. The pain is productive.

LEARN from each experience,  WATCH the ego and CHOOSE LOVE. Go through the dark night, and you reach a beautiful sunrise. It is only in the womb of the dark night that the sun evolves. It is only through the dark night that the morning comes.

Meditation: Sixty-Second Stop
This powerful yet simple technique encourages the love in your heart to grow, and it attracts more love to you.

Close your eyes and become aware of your heart. It might help to place your hand on your heart. Bring in a memory of a person, place or event that brings you joy. Feel the happiness filling your heart with that memory.
Do this technique whenever you feel disconnected from your heart or whenever you want to increase the love in your heart.
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